Rewire your self-critical brain
" I hold myself to unrealistic perfectionism or get swept away by impatience. Or when I start comparing myself to others who seem to be in a better space "
I feel that this statement very much applies to me, I become easily stressed when i begin a task with a great idea in my head but then cannot produce it to the same perfect standard as i had envisioned, i also find myself wasting time while working on projects due to impatience making me feel annoyed.
I also find myself becoming worried about my own work when i see how much better others are doing.
" The point here is that I had many setbacks and failures along the way "
I like how when the writer of the article is telling their own story they acknowledge how things are rarely straightforward and that no matter how perfect you try to be in any given situation, there are almost always some kind of unforeseen issues.
"What if, instead, you treat this setback as a temporary blip?"
This is some of the best advice i've seen in a long time and is used regularly in the fitness industry because of the obsessive nature of many people in the industry. It is incredibly important for protecting your mental health.
I like the idea of keeping your brain busy by giving yourself constant minor compliments for all small victories in your day to keep the negative thoughts at bay. I also have to agree with the writer that sometimes it is important to stop and think about your own being and make sure to get your own life back in order before worrying about anyone else.
This REBS self-care method is not something i had heard of in this sense but it is something that i have used for myself for quite a while, i can say i am a strong believer in this method.
A fixed mindset could be holding you back
A person cannot appreciate true success if they are regularly praised for every minor "achievement" or worse, being praised for participation, this will also lead to people not being able to healthily handle a failure or rejection, this is a big cause for people being spiteful, depressed, angry and leads to many other personal issues. It is important to teach people from childhood that success and failure go hand in hand, not everyone can be winner and that if everyone is special, then no-one is special.
Fixed mindset people seem to be able to categorized in 2 ways, either they believe skills cannot be developed and are innate and so they don't try to better themselves or they believe that their innate skills are already perfect and don't attempt to hone those skills. Both groups tend to deflect their shortcomings onto other people and in situations where they can't, they usually end up developing depression or some kind of mental health problem.
Growth mindset people are capable of accepting their failures and using them as a teaching experience, they prefer situations that they find challenging so that they can learn from it and develop themselves or their skills.
The tech industry is evolving the fastest it ever has and fixed mindset people are being left behind due to them not being able to adapt to new skills relevant to the industry whereas growth mindset people know and are showing that they can learn the new skills and stay relevant in the industry, giving insight from past projects while being able to adapt to the new environment. Workplaces would greatly benefit from teaching their fixed mindset staff about the growth mindset because it would lead to a more capable workforce and reduces the need to bring in new hires and replace workers who no longer are capable of their work.
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